Beauty is not an objective entity. Like the proverbial sound in the forest which must be heard to be a sound, beauty has to be beheld by someone to be beauty. Beauty is a perception, a judgment call. Hairstyle, clothing, and makeup aside (I leave that to other books), here’s how you can manipulate your Quarry’s perception of your looks.

While I was researching physical appearance, a friend sent me a videotape of a segment of the television show 20/20 aired some time ago on physical attractiveness. In one sequence, a strikingly beautiful blonde (an actress hired by ABC) stood on the side of the highway by her supposedly stranded car. Passing cars and trucks came screeching to a halt. Men risked life and limb galloping across four lanes to help the lovely damsel in distress. Several men fought over which lucky man was going to go get her gas for her.

In the next segment, another actress stood by the side of the highway. Same clothes. Same stranded car. However, this woman was less attractive, or so judged the program’s producers. Did cars come to a screeching halt to help her? Did men gallop across four lanes to help her? No. The autos went whizzing by. One or two slowed down but, after the drivers checked her out, they sped away.

One car stopped, but the male driver simply pointed to where she could go get some gas herself. Afterward, the program’s hosts interviewed the two actresses seated side by side. I pushed the pause button on my VCR to get a closer look at the two women. I scrutinized one, then the other, then the first again. I thought, “There’s not that much difference in their looks!” But, being female, I presumed that perhaps I’m no judge, so I decided to get a male opinion. I showed the frozen frame to a male friend. He agreed, “Not so much difference.”

What was it? I played the entire sequence for my friend. “Oh, sure,” he announced. Now he could see it. “Yes, the first actress is definitely prettier.” It took a third viewing for me to unravel the mystery. The first actress smiled at passing cars. She cocked her head, threw her shoulders back, and pushed her breasts out. She looked happy, fun-loving, sure of herself—therefore beautiful. The second actress just leaned against her car with a dejected expression on her face. She made no eye contact with passing traffic. She looked miserable and crossed her arms in front of her chest, hiding two of her very good assets. She looked unhappy, grumpy, unsure of herself—refore homely. Beautiful women move differently than their plainer sisters do.

This leads us to a technique to change your Quarry’s perception of your looks. Develop confident and beautiful body language. You will actually appear more beautiful when you move with grace and enthusiasm. Beauty is as beauty moves.

MOVE LIKE A 10

Can you fool Mother Nature? No. But you can fool a man.
Convince yourself that you are the most beautiful creature that ever graced the planet. Then move accordingly.

Men, does a similar technique work for you? Yes. Your physical movements definitely affect how alluring you are to women. Recently, after one of my seminars, a man asked me for some advice on approaching women. He was a good-looking fellow, but he stood slumped in front of me, his arms dangling like he had no further use for them. His eyes periodically darted away from mine in shyness. He asked me what opening lines work with a woman. I wanted to shake him and say, “Hey, forget what comes out of your mouth! First shape up your body language.” Women are attracted to men who move in a strong, self-assured, and masculine fashion.

MOVE LIKE A HUNK

Men, make strong, smooth, bold movements. Walk strong. Look like you know where you’re going and why. Take the woman’s arm when crossing the street, help her in and out of cars, and make other manly gestures that women find so seductive.

Countless studies conducted on how your physical appearance affects your success in love lead us to the following unusual technique. It will definitely increase your chances of finding your special someone.